Psych

Psychologists have proposed a number of different theories of motivation, including drive theory, instinct theory, and humanistic theory.

Components of Motivation

Anyone who has ever had a goal (like wanting to lose ten pounds or wanting to run a marathon) probably immediately realizes that simply having the desire to accomplish something is not enough. Achieving such a goal requires the ability to persist through obstacles and endurance to keep going in spite of difficulties.

There are three major components to motivation: activation, persistence, and intensity.

Activation involves the decision to initiate a behavior, such as enrolling in a psychology class.

Persistence is the continued effort toward a goal even though obstacles may exist, such as taking more psychology courses in order to earn a degree although it requires a significant investment of time, energy, and resources.

Finally, intensity can be seen in the concentration and vigor that goes into pursuing a goal. For example, one student might coast by without much effort, while another student will study regularly, participate in discussions and take advantage of research opportunities outside of class.

Theories of Motivation

So what are the things that actually motivate us to act? Psychologists have proposed a number of different theories to explain motivation:

Instincts: The instinct theory of motivation suggests that behaviors are motivated by instincts, which are fixed and inborn patterns of behavior. Psychologists including William James, Sigmund Freud, and, William McDougal have proposed a number of basic human drives that motivate behavior.
Drives and Needs: Many of our behaviors, such as eating, drinking, and sleeping, are motivated by biology. We have a biological need for food, water, and sleep, therefore we eat, drink, and sleep. Drive theory suggests that people have basic biological drives and that our behaviors are motivated by the need to fulfill these drives.
Arousal Levels: The arousal theory of motivation suggests that people are motivated to engage in behaviors that help them maintain their optimal level of arousal. A person with low arousal needs might pursue relaxing activities, while those with high arousal needs might be motivated to engage in exciting, thrill-seeking behaviors.
Extrinsic Vs. Intrinsic Motivation

Different types of motivation are frequently described as being either extrinsic or intrinsic. Extrinsic motivations are those that arise from outside of the individual and often involve rewards such as trophies, money, social recognition or praise. Intrinsic motivations are those that arise from within the individual, such as doing a complicated cross-word puzzle purely for the personal gratification of solving a problem.

Whooohoooo, my favourite part of the year…..

I feel spring slowly gaining momentum, guess its time for more love, I love this part of the year, beckoning towards summer, when I feel spring and smell spring I kinda imagine a store (one of the high fashion ones, although not necessarily,could be most upmarket stores) displaying fragrances, bottled in whimsical colors, fully bloomed tulips in weathered wheel barrows, french outdoor settings, shabby chic items juxtaposed….quirky and yet vibrant, picnic baskets coming out, packing some tasty wines, cheese & cheese boards or just a light braai for you and your loved one….soaking up the air, freshly cut grass, succulent fruit….I guess its the simplest pleasures in life that give us most pleasure without having to work hard at it.

Love you….

Stuart Wilde

Ive stumbled across this ideal, intelligent person that has so much of positive energy and a direct approach on how to face life… Hes straightforward and to the point, i thoroughly enjoyed his work…its posted on youtube…so interesting,

Do I Plan Life

Questions and ideas come to us everyday constantly, the idea is to stop thinking too much or stop thinking at all and focus on the now (present)…so then if that is the case in question ????how do we plan life….reality check..life is not meant to be planned but rather lived…we are to embrace everyday with constant change and be sure that we create our own destiny…is that not then called attractive planning???? i have sourced information only because ive opened myself to allowing energy flow into my vortex and allow constant change, oblivious thinking and self taunt are now of the past….sublime happiness and reality lets me know that life is good all the time, love thyself resonates deeply as that is the key change to all things great, look in the mirror and not only proclaim but believe that you are unique, special and deserve to love yourself…if i cannot love myself first nobody is gonna do it for me…take nothing for granted but rather embrace life fully….Asaiah makes me smile, hes awarded me with peace and love……i love you my baby (nephew)….

This n That..

You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching, Love like you’ll never be hurt, Sing like there’s nobody listening, And live like it’s heaven on earth.” | William W. Purkey

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” | Mahatma Gandhi

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.” | Marilyn Monroe, Marilyn

“Listen to the must nots, child. Listen to the don’ts. Listen to the shouldn’ts, the impossibles, the won’ts. Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me… Anything can happen, child. Anything can be.” | Shel Silverstein

“I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.” | Audrey Hepburn

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?” | Marianne Williamson, Return to Love

“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” | Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

“the only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars.” | Jack Kerouac, On the Road

“Hope is the thing with feathers That perches in the soul And sings the tune without the words And never stops at all.” | Emily Dickinson

“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” | Ralph Waldo Emerson

“None but ourselves can free our minds.” | Bob Marley

“So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.” | F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

“Simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures. Simple in actions and thoughts, you return to the source of being. Patient with both friends and enemies, you accord with the way things are. Compassionate toward yourself, you reconcile all beings in the world.” | Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

“A ship is safe in harbor, but that’s not what ships are for.” | William G.T. Shedd

“Meditate. Live purely. Be quiet. Do your work with mastery. Like the moon, come out from behind the clouds! Shine.” | Siddhārtha Gautama

“Is it so bad, then, to be misunderstood? Pythagoras was misunderstood, and Socrates, and Jesus, and Luther, and Copernicus, and Galileo, and Newton, and every pure and wise spirit that ever took flesh. To be great is to be misunderstood.” | Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves like locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is,to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you win then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” | Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

“I don’t think I could love you so much if you had nothing to complain of and nothing to regret. I don’t like people who have never fallen or stumbled. Their virtue is lifeless and of little value. Life hasn’t revealed it’s beauty to them.” | Boris Pasternak, Doctor Zhivago

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” | Mary Oliver, New and Selected Poems

“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” | T.S. Eliot

“It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.” | Lou Holtz

“Hold fast to dreams, For if dreams die Life is a broken-winged bird, That cannot fly.” | Langston Hughes

“Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.” | J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire

“Your life is an occasion. Rise to it.” | Suzanne Weyn, Mr. Magorium’s Wonder Emporium

“It is not revolutions and upheavals That clear the road to new and better days, But revelations, lavishness and torments Of someone’s soul, inspired and ablaze.” | Boris Pasternak

“It’s so hard to forget pain, but it’s even harder to remember sweetness. We have no scar to show for happiness. We learn so little from peace.” | Chuck Palahniuk, Diary

“Count your age by friends, not years. Count your life by smiles, not tears.” | John Lennon

“With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.” | Max Ehrmann, Desiderata

“Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.” | Christian D. Larson

“All the world is made of faith, and trust, and pixie dust.” | J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan

“And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.” | Friedrich Nietzsche

“I do not believe this darkness will endure.” | J.R.R. Tolkien

“Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth.” | Henry David Thoreau, Walden, or Life in the Woods

“You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.” | Friedrich Nietzsche

“Do not feel lonely, the entire universe is within you.” | Rumi

“All we have is all we need. All we need is the awareness of how blessed we really are.” | Sarah Ban Breathnach

“The bad news is you’re falling through the air, nothing to hang on to, no parachute. The good news is, there’s no ground.” | Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche

“In the midst of winter, I found there was within me an invincible summer.” | Albert Camus

“be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.” | Max Ehrmanm, Desiderata

“There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind.” | C.S. Lewis

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“All that is gold does not glitter, not all those who wander are lost” | J.R.R Tolkien

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” | Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

“Whatever you are, be a good one” | Abraham Lincoln

“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” | A. A. Milne

“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.”| Kahlil Gibran

“Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.” | Samuel Beckett

“Live, travel, adventure, bless, and don’t be sorry.” | Jack Kerouac

“We work in the dark – we do what we can – we give what we have. Our doubt is our passion, and our passion is our task. The rest is the madness of art.” | Henry James, The Middle Years

“If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put foundations under them.” | Henry David Thoreau

“Don’t tell me the moon is shining; show me the glint of light on broken glass.” | Anton Chekov

“When it’s over, I want to say: all my life I was a bride married to amazement. I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms. When it is over, I don’t want to wonder if I have made of my life something particular, and real. I don’t want to find myself sighing and frightened, or full of argument. I don’t want to end up simply having visited this world.” | Mary Oliver

“Don’t step into lives that aren’t yours, make choices that aren’t nourishing, or dance stiffly for years with the wrong partner, or parts of yourself.” | SARK

“Emotional discomfort, when accepted, rises, crests and falls in a series of waves. Each wave washes a part of us away and deposits treasures we never imagined. Out goes naivete, in comes wisdom; out goes anger, in comes discernment; out goes despair, in comes kindness. No one would call it easy, but the rhythm of emotional pain that we learn to tolerate is natural, constructive and expansive… The pain leaves you healthier than it found you.” | Martha Beck

“There shall be an eternal summer in the grateful heart.” | Celia Thaxter

“Never stop dreaming of moonbeams and fairy dust, shiny stars and the wonder of the heavens, a happier life and a better world.” | James J. Gormley

“Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes… the ones who see things differently — they’re not fond of rules… You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things… they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.” | Steve Jobs

“We are repeatedly what we do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” | Aristotle

“Stop wearing your wishbone where your backbone ought to be.” | Elizabeth Gilbert

“Anything or anyone that does not bring you alive is too small for you.” | David Whyte

“There will always be suffering. But we must not suffer over the suffering.” | Alan Watts

“I can give you my loneliness, my darkness, the hunger of my heart, I am trying to bribe you with uncertainty, with danger, with defeat.” | Jorge Luis Borges

“You must learn one thing. The world was made to be free in. Give up all the other worlds Except the one in which you belong.” | David Whyte

“If anything is worth doing, it is worth doing it badly.” | Martha Beck

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” | Brené Brown

“Your life is not a problem to be solved but a gift to be opened.” | Wayne Muller

“Forget safety. Live where you fear to live. Destroy your reputation. Be notorious.” | Rumi

“Think you’re escaping and run into yourself. Longest way round is the shortest way home.” | James Joyce

“No need to hurry. No need to sparkle. No need to be anybody but oneself.” | Virginia Woolf

“The world needs dreamers and the world needs doers But above all the world needs dreamers who do.” | Sarah Breathnach

“Nothing, Everything, Anything, Something: If you have nothing, then you have everything, because you have the freedom to do anything, without the fear of losing something.” | Jarod Kintz

“The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places.” | Ernest Hemingway

“The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.” |Confucius

“The one who asks questions doesn’t lose his way.” | African proverb

“Love everyone. Trust few. Paddle your own canoe.” | Anonymous

“There’s always a little truth behind every “just kidding”. A little knowledge behind every “I don’t know”. A little emotion behind every “I don’t care”. And a little pain behind every “it’s okay”.” | Source Unknown

“Ready, aim, fire? Fire. Fire. Fire.” | Peter Senge

“If consensus is overrated, I think balance is, too. I have no interest in living a balanced life. I want a life of adventure.” | Chris Guillebeau

“Enough of these phrases, conceit and metaphors, I want burning, burning, burning.” | Rumi

“I thank god for this most amazing day: for leaping greenly spirits of tress and a blue true dream of sky; for everything which is natural which is infinite which is yes.” | e.e. cummings

“If you want to reach the sky, you better learn how to kneel.” | Bono

“Remarkable is a choice.” | Seth Godin

“To be great, be whole; Exclude nothing, exaggerate nothing that is not you. Be whole in everything. Put all you are Into the smallest thing you do. The whole moon gleams in every pool.” | Fernando Pessoa

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Loneliness is the human condition. Cultivate it. The way it tunnels into you allows your soul room to grow. Never expect to outgrow loneliness. Never hope to find people who will understand you, someone to fill that space. And intelligent, sensitive person is the exception, the very great exception. If you expect to find people who will understand you, you will grow murderous with disappointment. The best you’ll ever do is to understand yourself, know what it is that you want, and not let the cattle stand in your way.” | Janet Fitch

“Some feelings sink so deep into the heart that only loneliness can help you find them again. Some truths are so painful that only shame can help you live with them. Some things are so sad that only your soul can do the crying for them.” | Gregory David Roberts

“Holy is the supernatural extra brilliant intelligent kindness of the soul.” | Allen Ginsberg

“If I can stop one heart from breaking, I shall not live in vain.” | Emily Dickinson

“To see a World in a Grain of Sand And a Heaven in a Wild Flower, Hold Infinity in the palm of your hand And Eternity in an hour.” | William Blake

“If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself, tell yourself that you are not poet enough to call it forth its riches.” | Rainer Maria Rilke

“I turned silences and nights into words. What was unutterable, I wrote down. I made the whirling world stand still.” | Arthur Rimbaud
“Our ability to grow is directly proportional to an ability to entertain the uncomfortable.” | Twyla Tharp

“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” | Marilyn Monroe

“The only way to stay sane is to go a little crazy.”| Susanna Kaysen

“I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived.” | Henry David Thoreau

“Sometimes it’s a little better to travel than to arrive.” | Robert M. Pirsig

“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect – you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break – her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there.” | Bob Marley

“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.” | C.S. Lewis

“Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark in the hopeless swamps of the not-quite, the not-yet, and the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish in lonely frustration for the life you deserved and have never been able to reach. The world you desire can be won. It exists.. it is real.. it is possible.. it’s yours.” | Ayn Rand

“Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.” | Siddhārtha Gautama

Post events that unfolded and questioned……..

Theres a constant battle with me about what is right according to me and that which is perceived by the world, should i follow norm like everyone else!!!!!most times i know i do the right thing or at least i would like to think so, theres an imminent change in me and its comes now at the most perfect time considering all that has actually transpired….even though there has been hurt and regret i kinda find myself smiling…not in a condescending way….but rather more of a sense of peace with myself…i try and learn as much as i can everyday to better equip myself for all the good that is out there for me…..timeless and ultimate peace in all my facets of life, the 17 seconds thought betterment has gotten me to a good place as well, I am lucky to have good people all around me….Thank you peeps

GOOD READS

MY MOST ENJOYED BOOKS TO DATE
 The Lord of the Rings by J.R.R. Tolkein
 Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen
 To Kill A Mockingbird by Harper Lee
 One Hundred Years Of Solitude by Gabriel Garcia Marquez
 Fighting’ McKenzie Anzac Chaplain by Col Stringer
 Deltora Quest Series by Emily Rodda
 Tomorrow, When The War Began by John Marsden
 Perfume: The Story Of A Murder by Patrick Suskind
 The Grapes of Wrath by John Steinbeck
 The Ancient Future Trilogy by Traci Harding
 The God Of Small Things by Arundhati Roy
 Harry Potter And The Goblet Of Fire (Book 4) by J.K. Rowling and The Power Of One by Bryce Courenay
 The Shipping News by Annie Proulx
 Captain Corelli’s Mandolin by Louis De Bernieres
 The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver
 Anne Of Green Gables by L.M. Montgomery
 Gone With The Wind by Margaret Mitchell

I PROMISE MYSELF

Promise Myself
I am so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.
I speak health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet.
To make all my friends feel that there is something in them
To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.
I must think only the best, work only for the best, and to expect only the best.
I must be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own.
I must forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
Wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature I meet a smile.
To give so much time to the improvement of myself that I have no time to criticize others.
I am too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
I think well of myself and proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words but great deeds.
I live in faith that the whole world is on my side so long as I am true to the best that is in me.”
I am mindful of those around me
I give myself time and energy